Sad

[crossfit]

Well, after two months of preparation, the women who was giving me her Grey changed her mind. Ipo lived here with me for 2 days before Racheal decided she missed Ipo too much to give her up. I am hoping that all goes well there as I don't really believe that anything has changed there and that Ipo will continue to have less time spent with her than she could use. On the other hand she will stay with the lady who she sees as her mom and has known her ten years of life.

So, I guess I am in the market for an African Grey. I am unsure of trying to rehome a bird after this experience. My heart is heavy as I have grown to really love this bird and don't want to have another person do the same thing to me again. My family is upset seeing how sad I am and the amount of energy I put into this process to make Ipo comfortable and think I should get a baby so I don't have to worry about someone trying to take back an older bird.

Oh well. Its hard to think clearly when your sad so I will probably not decide for a few days. I do have the cage still as well as the toys and such that I had bought for Ipo so that part of planning has been handled.

In the meantime, if anyone in the San Jose or Santa Cruz area can help me learn who are good breeders and pet stores and reputable rehoming organizations, that would probably be a first step. Feel free to send that info in a private message if you wish. I am not sure of the boards position on recommending services in the regular forums.

[luvparrots]

I am so sorry that things turned out the way they did for you and Ipo. I hope someone in the California area can help you with finding a breeder or places to find greys to re-home. Good luck and I am so sorry for the let down.<br><br>Post edited by: luvparrots, at: 2009/12/22 02:45

[judygram]

I am so sorry to hear you no longer have Ipo but maybe she can give the bird more time and attention now that she knows what it is to live without her. Maybe it just wasn't meant for you to have this grey but you will find another and maybe it will be a better choice to go with a baby grey.

You can look for breeders in your area at www.avianbiotech.com and www.birdbreeders.com

[crossfit]

That is what I am hoping Judy. If it works out, it will be best for everyone and I can be happy knowing that my two months involved with them led to them getting their lives back together. That is a major gift and I didn't even know I was giving it. And it makes the sadness much easier to bear.

If it doesn't, and her illness keeps her from being able to do what she really wants to do for Ipo, as it has hindered her for the last two and a half years, then it will be very very sad, especially since I will have gotten a grey of my own and she won't have someone like me who was so willing to keep her in my life along with the bird.

Send prayers or hopes for the first option. Racheal is a great lady with a tough illness and Ipo is an awesome bird. I just want what is best for them all. I know I can move on. I have a lot of emotional strength and also a lot of patience. I just need a few days to be sad or I won't let myself be sad and store up resentment instead.

[judygram]

Know that we are here for you if you need us but I hope things work out for Ipo for she is the utmost important one at this time.

[crossfit]

Well, mostly the help I can get from the forum would be in helping me find resources for rethinking my plans and trying to decide if I want to rehome a bird or just buy a baby so this won't happen again.

As for me and Ipo, I will continue to be friends with Racheal so those relationships will continue - both the human and the avian ones. And just writing has helped me to move forward too.<br><br>Post edited by: crossfit, at: 2009/12/22 04:25

[lovethatgrey]

One of the members of this forum was VERY happy with this breeder. She is in Northern California.

http://fofaviary.com/

[raleej337]

so sad on what happened.

if youre still looking for a breeder try contacting Bill, he is in Salinas. I've got my CAG from him, here is his email: afgrey123@aol.com or you might want to try Lynn: lynnsbirds.com, she's in san jose. There is another breeder in Watsonville but can't remember the name.

goodluck!

[luvparrots]

Karma to you Adina and Rogie for your help.

[JillyBeanz]

After all that careful preparation too - I thought you had it all well in hand. What a shame. Hopefully Rachael will be able to spend more time with Ipo and realises was a valuable member of the family he is.

Good luck looking for a baby - I think you are very prepared for your journey into grey ownership and look forward to hearing your progress xx